Hello Loves…I thought I’d share some flowers and thoughts with you today.
There’s a common theme in the letters I receive from young folks and older folks alike:
Worry
Worry about decisions they have made, that might have been wrong and leave them feeling stuck.
Worry about decisions they are making for the future as though any decision made is a burden they will carry forever…if that path they choose turns out to be the wrong one.
Worry about mistakes made in the past and feeling that these mistakes define them forever.
Worry about finances, health, family, friends…
Because I, too, have had those worries, I’m here to say:
Mistakes can be rectified and forgiven.
Decisions made can be changed.
It might not be easy. It might even seem impossible, but most of the time, it can be done and making the change is better than the alternative.
In the grand scheme of things, your decision is most likely not set in stone
And, remember…
Worry helps nothing.
Worry makes no progress.
Worry relieves no heartache.
Worry steals joy.
Worry creates illness.
Don’t worry
Action and faith is the answer. Believe in yourself. Take action. Make some progress.
Do it all with love in your heart for yourself and those around you.
And be brave enough to follow YOUR heart.
I love the story behind the song: “Let It Be” by Paul McCartney
Paul McCartney shares the story that in the late 60’s his band was having troubles and he feared they would break up. It was a deep worry for him. He was turning to alcohol and drugs. He was distracting himself with clubbing and late nights, trying to relieve the worry and pain in his heart.
One night in the midst of this bout of worry and stress, his mother, who had died about 10 years before when he was 14, came to him in a dream. The theme of the dream was, ”Let it be, don’t worry, everything is going to be ok. Be gentle, don’t fight things, just try and go with the flow and it will all work out.”
He awoke from this dream so comforted and he was able to take the words of wisdom from his Mum who came to him in his dream and apply them to his life.
Not long after this dream, he got together with Linda, who he says was “the saving of him”. He felt that his Mum sent Linda to him.
How beautiful is that?
I never knew this about the song, “Let It Be”. I always assumed he was referring to The Virgin Mary in his song. But, Mother Mary was actually his own Mom.
We all have worries sometimes.
We all have fear and uncertainty, but it is always comforting for me to know that we are all in this life together.
So friends, perhaps we should wrap our arms around our loved ones and follow his advice…
Let it be
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And when the broken-hearted people living in the world agree
There will be an answer, let it be
For though they may be parted, there is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Yeah, there will be an answer, let it beSongwriters: John Lennon / Paul McCartney
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And when the night is cloudy there is still a light that shines on me
Shine until tomorrow, let it be
I wake up to the sound of music, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, yeah, let it be
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, yeah, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
Let It Be lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Sometimes these things are easier said, than done, but let’s give it a try.
Be there for one another.
Have faith.
Trust your heart.
Let it be.
Aubrey
So well said Mama Jill! Thank you for sharing! 💕
Jill
Love you to the moon! xoxo
Steph
While reading your blog, I just realized I should stop worrying. I always think “what if I can’t do this?” or “What if I can’t do that?” in short I’m afraid to make mistakes.
But you were right, Worry helps nothing, Worry makes no progress and believe in yourself.
So I have to standup and believe in myself. 😊♥️💪
Thank you for this blog Jill! 🤗
Jill
Hi Steph! I’m the same…always afraid I’m going to make a mistake so I end up making no decision at all…which, of course, is worse! I believe that is called paralyzing perfectionism. I decided in my old age that I’m just going to go ahead and make mistakes and I’ve learned that it is not the end of the world to be imperfect! Just go for it…no one likes perfect people anyway!
Sending you lots of love and bravery! xoxo Jill
Abby
Hi Jill,
Thank you for this post. It moved me. I’m approaching the anniversary of a traumatic event that happened to me almost a year ago. Ever since July started, I’ve been extremely on-edge. I didn’t think the event would affect me a year later but here I am. What I enjoyed about reading this blog was when you highlighted the theme of the song: “Let it be, don’t worry, everything is going to be ok. Be gentle, don’t fight things, just try and go with the flow and it will all work out.” In the theme, I noticed words that could help with my PTSD: don’t worry, don’t fight things, and go with the flow. I balance work and extracurriculars that I sometimes forget to have time to myself and just LET IT BE! Thanks for bringing some light back into my life! I may just have to visit that flower field if I ever find myself in Oregon during that season! Also I’m definitely going to listen to “Let it Be” right after posting this!
Best,
Abby (nabrinasfeed)
Jill
Hi Abby:
I’m so sorry that you suffered a traumatic event. I believe that only time and your will to move on helps heal your heart. When my mom passed away a year ago, my sister told me that if you feel like you always want to cry, designate a time each day to take a moment and feel your sorrow, cry it out and then try to move forward with joy and love in your heart. I think that you should not ignore your pain. Give yourself a chance to feel it but don’t let it consume you. If we always try to pretend we are ok, that sadness just lingers right there under the surface. Feel it and deal with it and then move forward. That’s my method for getting through hard times.
Sending you love and strength, Abby. xoxo Jill
Vicki Dunbar
Oh Jill… This brought tears to my eyes and an answered prayer. I’ve had a lot on my plate recently. Working two jobs, and going to school. As well as, worrying about my daughter and grandchildren that live so far away from me. I am exhausted. Here it is… almost 11:30, and I just got done with my homework assignment for the night. I worry that I will be able to keep going on. And then I read this… and it reminds me that worry will break me down quicker than anything else. So, yes, I will let it go.. and enjoy life. I’ll going into work tomorrow (for Job #2) and smile and be joyful and spread love. Much love… xoxox Vicki
Jill
Hi Vicki…sometimes I think worry is the thing that exhausts us most…even more than all the hard work of life. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. You can do it, Wonder Woman! We women are stronger than we give ourselves credit for! Keep in mind that, This too shall pass and you will look proudly back at yourself and the realization that you conquered these obstacles that felt overwhelming.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself, eat right, get some sleep, take your vitamins…all those things we forget about when we have too much to do. You’ve got this girl!
Sending you love and strength. xoxo Jill
Amanda Myers
Wow.. I needed to hear this right now. I worry too much and this was a nice reminder to step back and focus on the now. “Just try and go with the flow and it will all work out” are words I should try and live by.
Also I didn’t realize it wasn’t Mother Mary he was referring to in the song! Cool fact.
Jill
Hi Amanda!
I’m so glad the “words of wisdom” found you at the right time. It’s the simple things that seem to help in times of stress, just getting down to the basics and putting it all in perspective.
My entire life of listening to “Let It Be”, I never knew that “Mother Mary” was his mom, either. Fun fact of the day!
Thank you for your comment. I hope your brain has taken a break and allowed you some peace!
xoxo Jill
Jo Anne
Hi, Jill.
You are so right. Worry is so detrimental; but, we can’t help but worry about our kids, etc. My Mom used to tell me that about 95% of the things we worry about never happen. Now that I’m nearing 55 years old, I have my own experience to draw from. I can say this with the utmost certainty….make decisions thoughtfully and deliberately. Make the best decisions you can with what you know (the facts you have) and with what you feel (listen also to what your heart tells you) at the time you are making the decisions. Once all is said and done, know that the decisions you made….you made with what you knew and what your heart told you to do at the time. Things change and regret is a waste of time because you can’t change what is done. All any of us can do is move forward with positivity. We all make mistakes; but, if we go about things carefully and with the best interest of all involved, I think, we can live with ourselves in the long run more peacefully.
xoxo Jo Anne
Jill
So very true, Jo Anne. I’ve been such a worrier and it is truly a waste of time. I’m changing for the better and continue to learn and grow. The best years are ahead!
xoxo Jill